Dear Future Self,
Once upon a time I became a network marketer - no, I'm not talking about joining companies where I have to pass my first sales commission up to a sponsor, sell lotions, potions, and energy drinks, or recruit 100 people before making my first profitable dollar. I'm taking about an industry with products and services that rely on building very real relationships. In my career as a marketer, I've learned so much about building rapport, but even more about the necessity of having a mentor. I discovered through consecutive seasons of failure, that you can't listen to every well-meaning voice and still expect to succeed.
The thing is, about every associate in one of the companies I joined considered themselves a seasoned mentor after just a short time. They all felt that they were someone who'd "seen it all" and often presented themselves as such to new recruits joining the business. Everyone wanted to be a success. But to the detriment of many newbies, "Everyone" also wanted to be right all the time. When it came to team building, much of the presentation language was about mentorship and support. But once a person got in, they had 20-30 people in the company trying to be your "support team". The reality behind that is that you cannot listen to thirty different voices, giving you thirty different methods and trainings. It doesn't matter that these same voices tell you that what they're giving you is a "proven system" that's worked forever and a day or that twenty families just hit six figures in the last year. As an individual, you can only listen to so many nuanced vantage points at once before being overwhelmed with the details. While it all may be good information, truthfully, not all of it will be used. Truly successful people focus solely on the things that matter. They play to their strengths and profitable activities in a way that make sense to them. They don't care as much about the scripts, but the strategies that worked for those before them. They want to know how they fit into things and to make things work for them in the Now.
The point that I want to make here is that we have to cut the fat at some point. We can't take varying advice from thirty different people, expecting to get a specific result. We have to hone in on just two voices. One of those voices is from a dedicated mentor. A dedicated mentor is someone who has accomplished, or is accomplishing, more than you have in an area of life you are trying to be successful in. The other voice we need to listen to is our own - but not the current version of us. I'm talking about the Future Self. What kind of business would Future Self run? What role would They play in relationships? How would They handle stressful situations? These are the questions we must ask ourselves when facing Life's lessons. These are the only two opinions that should matter.
How many voices have you been listening to?